You don’t need to have it all together to get the help; why being messy is the right time to outsource

You don’t need to have it all together to get the help; why being messy is the right time to outsource

“It’s too early to outsource.” 

“I’m too disorganised to even think about getting help!”

“When my systems make sense I’ll ...”

“After I’ve caught up on e-mails … and sorted my onboarding … and actually finished setting up that funnel from 2022.”

Sound familiar?

If I had a quid for every time someone said this to me, I’d have at least three 6 star spa weekends booked. It’s one of the most common things I hear from women running amazing businesses who still feel like everything’s stuck in the ‘nearly finished’ folder.

You’re not alone.

So many brilliant women tell themselves they’ll outsource later - once they’re ‘on top of things’. But in all honesty - that magical ‘together’ feeling?

It doesn’t land out of nowhere. It happens when you stop trying to do everything yourself.

“Chelley, (name changed) said to me, I can’t remember when I last closed my laptop and felt like I’d actually achieved anything, even though the business is growing and I’m doing better than I ever thought I feel like I’m constantly ‘not finished.”

Chaos isn’t a weakness - it’s a sign that something has to change 

Chaos also isn’t the ‘way it has to be’. Your never-ending to-do list, exploding inbox and half-finished Kartra setup? They’re not signs you’re failing - they’re signs you need support.

So many of the women I work with are running successful businesses that feel like a mess behind the scenes. The systems are clunky. The admin is piling up. Their brains are on overdrive, and they’re still trying to write a newsletter, update a landing page and figure out Mailchimp - all before 10am.

Does this sound like you? 

A lot of us - especially women - start our businesses thinking we should be able to do it all. Be the boss, the bookkeeper, the content creator, the tech fixer, the one who remembers to post on Instagram and remember to make and pack the kids’ lunch everyday. 

Somewhere along the line, we picked up the message that asking for help means we’re not cut out for it - that if we were really capable, we’d have it all handled already.

So, we push through.

We make another to-do list.

We tell ourselves we’ll get help once we’re more on top of things, even though deep down, we know we’re one more “can you just” email away from crying into a large glass of sauvignon (and on a school night!)

It’s no wonder so many brilliant women end up overwhelmed and stuck.

We’ve seen inboxes at 2307 starred messages.

We’ve had women sending out lead magnets one by one, manually!

We’ve seen women lose clients because the call wasn’t in the diary at the right time.

Basically, we’ve seen it all and we’re not phased!.”

I’m just too disorganised to outsource

Be honest… 

💭 You wouldn’t wait for the weather to change before you had a summer BBQ (in the UK!) would you?

💭 You don’t need colour-coded systems.

💭 You don’t need a beautifully organised Trello board.

💭  You definitely don’t need to know exactly what you’d hand over.

You just need to admit that trying to do it all yourself isn’t working. 

Some of the best client transformations I’ve seen have come from the ones who felt totally all over the place when we started.

Their inbox was bursting.

Their onboarding system was half-written.

They had automations coming out their ears that they hadn’t looked at in months and to-do lists scattered across twelve different apps.

And do you know what happened when they asked for help? 

We just got started.

A few hours a month. One system at a time. One part of the chaos, sorted - and suddenly they could breathe again.

Eden (name changed) felt like they couldn’t even explain where to begin … so we focused on 3 priorities, I chatted to her, asked my questions and we walked away with 2 key things. We fixed those and then once we started to flow everything else came in. Some small tweaks make a huge difference.

What happens after you say yes to help?

The second someone stops waiting for things to be perfect and says, “Yes, I need help,” everything shifts.

They feel lighter. Their brain stops buzzing. They finally tick off that task they’ve been putting off for six months. They breathe. Then they create. And they get their Fridays back!

Because when you’re not drowning in back-end faff, the fun and freedom come back. You feel like you again - not a PA to your own business.

When we worked with Charley she was able to take her first laptop free holiday in 8 years. A small change she was so nervous about but we had systems in place and she even sold 2 places on her retreat while she was away.

You’re not too messy - you’re ready 

You‘re not the only one. Needing help isn’t a sign of weakness - it’s a sign of growth, and growth can sometimes make us feel very uncomfortable and totally overwhelmed. And you also want to grow without burning out!

If you’ve been stuck in your head thinking…

😓 “I should be able to do this on my own”

😓 “It’s too soon to bring someone in”

😓 “I’ll never be able to explain what I need anyway …”

I completely get that. And I promise, for that moment you let someone like me in? 

That’s when the magic starts. You don’t have to do it all, and you definitely don’t have to do it all alone. 

Working with me is zero fluff and full support. I’ll help you figure out what actually needs doing, where to start, and how to stop everything feeling like a tangled-up pile of mess. 

We’ll make a plan, get your creative juices flowing again - and we’ll make the process fun along the way.

To get started we have a quick 15 min chat and Ellen will answer any of you questions. This is completely no obligation just a great time to find out if outsourcing is right for you and if Ministry VA are the right match! Book that quick chat here. 

If your brain’s full, your inbox is making you want to cry, and you’re tired of saying, “I’ll sort it later” - now’s the perfect time to get support.

Whether that’s…

A small monthly contract (5/10 or more hours of pure breathing space)

• The Virtual VA Membership (for low-cost, low-pressure support)*coming soon

• Or even just a free quiz to see what support would help most *coming soon

You’re not too messy. You’re just ready.

Send me a message on Instagram if you're not sure where to start no pressure, promise.